Act “As If”: Because the Only Thing We Control is Ourselves
Like many people, I like thinking that I’m in control—of myself, of my prospects, of my own life.
But with the unchecked pandemic, the coming climate chaos, the near-collapse of our economy (because Wall Street is not the economy!), this insane back-to-school season, our endangered election, and more, the illusion of control has been wearing pretty thin.
Yet the research is clear: Humans do best when we have some control. That’s why we work harder and better on things that we choose, and why being micromanaged is so destructive for people’s mental and physical health.
Wanting some control is a human thing.
…So We Need to Act “As If”
Acting “as if” is a form of make-believe where we first convince ourselves, and then convince others that—in spite of the unnerving reality around us—we still have at least some agency in our own lives.
And while this self-persuasion process may sound a little shady, the ability to act “as if” is what allows us to stay motivated, keep slogging, and hopefully create a new reality.

How do you learn to do this?
Acting “As If” Is a Public Speaking Skill
That’s because public speaking—especially the kind where you’re put on the spot by your boss, as a presenter, or while interviewing for a job—is an extended exercise in acting “as if.”
Even the most experienced public speakers act “as if”:
they’re not nervous (and they don’t have any of those pesky symptoms of fear)
they’re not feeling self-conscious
they know everything there is to know about the topic on which they’re speaking
they’ve spent more than enough time preparing
The ability to act “as if” we’re confident and prepared can help in every area of our currently chaotic lives…and so can the ability to communicate more clearly.
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It’s especially hard to feel in control, to connect with people, to make an impact in this chaotic moment because we’re operating virtually. So the ability to speak with confidence and authority gives us two benefits for the work of one. Public speaker training:
Teaches us to act “as if,” and
Helps us dial back the uncertainty in our lives
This is truly a case of “fake it ’till you become it,” because public speaking makes us better able to ask for what we need, and take charge of the situations we find ourselves in.
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From his success on the sales floor of an automotive dealership  to becoming a veteran trainer and then the adoption of technology for Internet-based marketing, his career has evolved to deliver the skills and tools needed to help consumers. Richie Bello combined his automotive expertise with his robust desire to “take care of the customer first” to become an automotive influencer, published author, and renowned trainer.  Bello absorbed the wants and needs of consumers as he worked up the ladder of the automotive industry.

Over the thirty-five years of his career, he developed strong Internet marketing skills, leading him to developing software solutions that create ease for consumers, and helps dealers improve relationships with customers. Innovation drives success. And, for Bello, it’s in his DNA. took years to come to consumers and arrived in a timely manner, during the 2020 Pandemic. With over 6 million vehicles on the site, features that help consumers deliver, finance and warranty, Bello has met the retail digital age head on.

Bello also is founder of Richie Bello Institute of Leadership and Management, a 501C3 not for profit, dedicated to the recruitment, education and employment of veterans into the automotive industry. Visit


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